Do you remember, when as a child, you kept waiting for Christmas to come? Perhaps you counted down to the last day of school. You counted every day and knew when the last bell would ring, welcoming the start of summer break. Sometimes the wait seemed extremely lengthy, but you knew there was an end in sight. When couples discover they are going to have a baby, the countdown calendar is on.
It sure would be nice if the adoption process worked that way, too. The sad truth is that it doesn’t. When you pursue the adoption path, you are getting on a long ride. You have no idea if the wait will be short or long. You have no idea whether or not you will ever receive a child. Thus, you wait. And you wait. And you wait some more.
The same is true of the married couple wanting to have a baby. There is no guarantee of a baby. However, they wait and hope and pray.
What’s a person to do during this exceedingly long stage? Do I wallow in self-pity? Do I become angry at the girls who have babies all the time and don’t even want them? Do I lock myself away from all new moms? Do I wonder when I will get to have something good happen to me?
The long wait (since January 2006) has helped me to see God provides all good things to me ALREADY. I have been born into a Christian family that knew that I needed my sinful thoughts removed in the gift of holy baptism. I am married to a loving husband, who carries the load of barrenness with me. I have been blessed with friends who walk this difficult road and share tears with me. When God made me His child, He gave me abundant blessings right then and there. I didn’t have to mark the days off on a calendar, waiting for God’s blessings to come to me. I received them at my baptism.
God has created the world and all within it. He cares for the sparrow and knows the very hairs on our heads. He knows all things about me, and loves me anyway! He cares for me, and He cares for you, my dear friend in Christ. He loves you!
And so I can talk about barrenness and not feel like I’m less of a person than the unwed teenage mom or the family that already has their quiver full and another one the way. God has given me so many good things. On my knees, with tears in my eyes, I realized that God has taken care of me in multiple ways. Whether or not I am able to mother another child – that doesn’t matter. I am valuable in God’s eyes. If God should see fit to grow my family, then I am blessed even more abundantly. If God deigns that my family is complete in its current form, then I am blessed abundantly. I have God’s goodness ALREADY.